Yesterday was a riff on limits and boundaries and some of our own subtle distinctions between them. The post inspired this illustration by The Reluctant Illustrator
Driving is such a great metaphor.
We all move through the world with a different style. We all have a different way of being in the world. When you encounter people with a style that’s different than yours, what happens? Do you continue to go with the flow? Do you adapt to who they are? Do you insist on your style or way of being?
What about the rules of the road?
Do you stay within the limits? How about stop signs? Do you come to a complete stop? Do you signal to others where you’re going to go so they can adjust for you? When, where and how do you yield? How you drive might say a lot about your relationship with the limits you encounter every day.
You can’t always go with the flow
Well, you can, but that has a cost to you too. If you’re a go-with-the-flow person, what does it take for you to be completely offended, floored, or driven off the road by somebody else? When is it appropriate for you to put the pedal to the metal? When do you need to pump the brakes?
How does play factor into things?
Do you like doing donuts in a shopping mall parking lot after a snowstorm? Do you believe that the parking brake is there to help you turn? All valid questions. So what’s your driving style? Share with us how you like to move around in the world.
One Derful Thing
Find something to smash.
I’m not talking about a ‘rage room’ filled with things to smash.
Find one thing you can smash. On purpose. To see how it feels.
Easy? Perhaps not. Take some time to find something that is:
It feels wrong to smash it.
Create a space for smashing. This might mean putting down a tarp for some. For others, it might mean finding a place out doors. Either way, find and prepare a place to smash.
Next? How are you going to smash? Do you have a bat or hammer?
Or do you just throw things at rocks. Both work.
Prepare to smash. Notice the sensations and feelings that come up - if any.
Smash thing - notice the sensations and feels that come while smashing.
Clean up - notice any sensations and feelings that come up while cleaning.
Report back what you experience ;-)