The problem with that guy I was supposed to like

was that he was too much like me

Yesterday I told you about ‘that guy I was supposed to like”.

The biggest problem that I found with him was he was like me in a lot of ways. He was a lot like me in a lot of the ways that I did not like about myself.

Back then, I had neither patience with him, nor with myself. And compassion? That was not a word in heavy rotation for me in those days.

How he was in the world made my skin crawl.

During my brief encounters with self awareness, how I was in the world made my skin crawl too.

Frequently, when people irritate us, it’s likely because we are guilty of the same bullshit that we’re irritated by.

It’s normal and easy to get irritated by people. It takes effort to ground yourself, connect and move forward. That’s work.

So, do we work at relationships because of some reward, or do we work on relationships so we can always be improving how we relate?

It’s like the old saying goes:

If you want to catch fish, don’t use a baseball glove.