The Mask of pretending to be Non Judgemental
You are a judgemental person. Now use the tool for good.
Clear thesis statement: People who claim to not judge others are full of shit. So full of shit that I can smell them miles away.
Judgement has gotten a bad reputation. The ability to exercise judgement and prudently pre-judge situations is not only a basic tool for survival, but a gateway to compassion. Judgement is neither cruel nor kind. It is a tool and its impact is based on how it is used in the world.
I’ve met people who gush about hating judgement and never judging people. With a few questions, I quickly learn that they’ve been hurt when others have ‘judged’ them and have had a negative perception of them. I then ask what they think about judgemental people. They reply, that they don’t like them. Eventually it comes out that they have negative judgements of judgemental people. As such, they are, in fact, being judgemental themselves.
I find the resulting embarrassment and frustration delicious. Once beyond that, we explore stories where judgement comes in handy.
When I first moved …