so, it depends on the context

and the others

Yesterday’s Foolsletter illustrated how shame is contextual. It is a relational experience. That means that shame arises when we encounter the other. The people we are with and the context we are in defines whether or not something we do is shameful.

I’ve been getting a lot of feedback about shame. This recently came in as a message.

Say some more about this:

“Developing a sensitivity to the experience of shame in yourself and compassionate towards that in others is a kind of super power. * It’s a way to give people permission to be themselves and to recognize and honour the boundaries that can both be supportive and restrictive.*

When you understand and are sensitive to how you experience shame, it becomes easier to recognize the physical signs, stories and behaviours in others. Once you can recognize someone who is experiencing shame, it becomes easier to help support them as they sort through their shame.

Is the shame experience information from a boundary, directing you back to int…