shallow power

a follow up to shit separating

I wrote earlier this week about shit separators. It brought up some great questions about interdependence vs independence and shit mixing. This issue of the Foolsletter is a response to that question. 

We start our lives completely dependent on our mothers. After being part of them, we separate and become part of the world. Infants? Still dependent.

As we grow, we become more able to care for ourselves. This some describe as a process of becoming ‘independent’. Independent? That’s a remarkably foolish ideal. As we become less dependent on adults to take care of our physical and emotional needs, what we are dependent on from others changes. 

Teens rely on their peers for support. They are like a densely packed thicket of brush. Stacked tight, they are frequently confused about whose branch is whose. Seemingly simple situations have tragic implications. A lot of people get stuck in this codependent thicket of worrying about the judgement of others. More still hide behind the false assumpti…