Make room for the weirdos
Give the weirdo in you a little room too!
There's a trick you learn when stacking wood. All of the pieces are not uniform. They don’t go together like leggo. They have odd, twisted and asymmetrical shapes. Some sticks are downright strange and gangly. The strange and gangly ones, when you give them a bit of extra space can create a nice basis for the other odd shaped ones.
Giving each stick the space it needs seems to lead to steady and sturdy pile of wood.
Consider the other option. Insist that the twisted up, weird and knotty ones line up with the super straight grained ones. Now expect them to behave the same way and function together seamlessly. That’s a recipe for a shaky wood pile.
So. How do you make space for the freaky twisted people in your life? How do you make space and support the twisted up and weird parts of you?
Are you putting knotty sticks next to straight ones and expecting them to behave?
It’s like the old saying goes:
Life’s a lot like fussing over a woodpile. In the end, woodpile or person, we all end up as ashes.