Letting your clover grow

A little longer

Laughter and resilience part 2 is coming along still. It’s an essential part of the Book of Wrong Answers.

Yesterday’s post on ‘Letting clover grow’ was inadvertently important to the book.

The Book of Wrong Answers is a book that is concerned with our ability to accommodate our own paradoxes, polarities and contradictions.

In Gestalt Therapy we talk a lot about the paradoxical theory of change. Simply put, a person can change by becoming more aware of themselves and not trying to change at all.

You change by not changing.

How does this connect to messy clover?

There are times, when I see a client and they gain some insight about themselves, they have quickly said: Well, I won’t do that anymore…

Really?

That statement is highly unlikely.

If there’s something about you, that you’ve done for years, it’s highly likely that this behaviour is somehow functional - either for yourself or it serves a system you live within. With this in mind, whatever change you want to make, will not be made so ea…