Laughter and Resilience Part 2b
When we can't laugh
There are times when we can’t laugh.
When there have been urgent, critical health situations with those closest to me, I tend to get frozen for a few days.
I’ve been frozen with worry about one of my cats for about four days.
It’s been horrible for both of us.
My cat has a tube up his penis = super uncomfortable.
I’m worried about him = super uncomfortable.
Yesterday, the fear broke and I found some pleasure in joking about it.
Though still afraid, I’m feeling lighter.
I love my cat.
And now I can joke about it.
My wife was home with the cat. She had more time to process. She attempted to joke with me about his situation. I wasn’t ready yet.
That’s the thing about comedy. It’s relational and is dependent on the other person you’re with.
It takes a special kind of sensitivity to make heavy, dark jokes.
It also takes a willingness to be wrong, cross relational boundaries, potentially hurt people and apologize.
If you’re attempting to make jokes you risk hurting people. Thi…
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