Disappointment, pain and creativity
Time to amplify a comment from Laura Dalling. In response to yesterday she wrote:
We will find irritation regardless of its magnitude. A very wise friend once told me, "When a princess freaks out over a broken nail, her stress is real." The sensation - very real. The size of the problem - micro. When our paths are too smooth and risk free, we still find ways to develop anxiety and stress. Better to find an outlet - like sport or exercise or chess or music, than to become a princess crying over a worn manicure.
I’ve put a section in bold for emphasis.
When we live an easy life, our stresses, the ones that feel like a big deal are frequently quite small in comparison to the sensations that go with them. In more simple terms, we get our knickers in knots over first world problems.
Another problem of the too comfortable? We create problems, drama and stress so that we can have something to do battle with.
You see it in workplaces all the time. Whether it’s a fight over who does the dishes or resentment of a team member who negotiated a better deal than you have, we are bloody vikings when it comes to finding grievances.
Are they big deals?
But, our nervous systems need stimulation. And that stimulation that causes fight flight freeze responses needs a story.
And the story needs a hero victim and a villain.
Too comfortable, too bored, too little to do or too little free time can lead to creating drama that isn’t necessary.
And in today’s world, there’s more than enough of that.
Calm your nervous system. Unplug the drama.
And, instead of causing shit at work?
Get a hobby.
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