Sheryl Crow told me so

on abandoning status games

When my wife and I were first hooking up, I really embarrassed myself.

It was the first time I spent the night at her place. At the time, I wasn’t aware of what I was doing. Now, I’m appalled by my behaviour.

I brought one of the status games from college into this new relationship.

I was super into indy rock, alternative music and the whole scene that went with it. At the time, it seemed pretty damn important. At the time, this scene defined me. This was the world that I wanted to be part of.

All my friends were part of this world. Being part of the alternative crowd made me feel important. I was into something others weren’t. We were different. We were on the cutting edge. We were change. We were special.

And?

We were a bunch of fucking insecure, highly judgemental, shitty little assholes.

I was a low status player, but not the lowest. At least I was accepted and acceptable sometimes Other times, people merely rolled their eyes at me and moved on. People liked having me around. I knew en…