I like the way you move
Everything moves.
Everything is movement.
This is a great framework for describing our experience.
Far too often, we get mired down by our ability to make meaning.
When we describe our experience, most of the time we tell our story paying most attention to the events that happened. From there when attempting to make sense of the events, we puzzle about ‘why’ they went that way in order to understand ‘what’ the meaning of our experience is.
Why did things go they way they did?
Because they did. Simple.
No need to be ‘why-nee’ or ‘why-me’ for that matter.
As for the ‘what does it all mean’?
That’s place where our brain just makes shit up.
It means what you want it to mean and choose it to mean.
The question of ‘how’ can be super informative when determining meaning.
But the how cow gets left behind.
Frequently, we don’t have a very good vocabulary to describe our lived experience.
Enter the framework that everything is movement.
This is particularly helpful when describing the feelings we experience in relationship with the world.
Take happiness for example: How does your happiness move? Does it bubble? Does it glow? Does it swing, or simmer?
How does contentment move?
What directions do they move in?
What intensity?
Are your feelings concentrated or peripheral?
Where do they start? How to they emerge? Where are they going?
How do they end?
When we begin to describe our felt experience with the language of movement, we have an opportunity to get a different look at what we’ve gone through.
Despite feeling ‘twitchy and raw’ after being ‘ground down’ by my experience of COVID, I’m slowly, ‘opening up’ and ‘moving out’ and finding ‘hesitant and uncertain’ joy in ‘warmly reconnecting’ with other people.
How we describe our experience of emotions. frequently sheds a lot of light on the meaning we attach to them.
One of my favourite books is Watership Down. I didn't read it until I was an adult. In it, the rabbits' euphemism for death is "stopped running". I love it. The opposite of life is not moving.
Ah the why. Like if I have a reason I know who or what to blame. I am not a blamer. Ain't got no time for blame. Let fix it or move forward with it. Can't unbreak the mirror.