how to hit your children
and encourage violence in the classroom
the instruction to ‘toughen up’ comes with a sense of menace.
Pain is part of how we learn.
When we fear pain, we retreat from our futures.
The world is frequently mean when it need not be and coddles when it may not be the most helpful.
There’s a great game that you can play where you get to slap your children.
It’s called hand tennis, or hand slaps.
It’s a great way to have a fun relationship with pain.
Play this with your kids.
Play this with your boss. Tell them that you’d start where you are in the hierarchy - with your hands on the bottom.
Hand Slap / Red Hands Game: Embracing Challenge and Building Resilience
Explore the deeper layers of the hand slap game, a traditional activity that goes beyond simple play. It's an avenue for experiencing our own limits and those of others, testing our resilience and our ability to face discomfort squarely.
This game is about more than just reflexes; it's about understanding our reactions to pain and challenge, and learning to navigate them effectively. It reflects life's inherent push and pull between desire and avoidance.
There are only two directions we travel in life. We either move towards something we desire. This is always a break with balance and a dynamic act of aggression.
We move away from that which we fear.
Regularly we fear either physical or emotional pain so we back away. Boys these days have been encouraged to be more ‘like girls’ and play less violent and combative games.
As such, we have a WHOLE LOT of boys ‘being careful’ living in basements, retreating into a ‘safe’ haze of weed and porn.
Everything they want is on the other side of pain.
Sadly, they’ve been taught that pain is bad.
Happily, there’s a game for that.
How to Play:
Two players stand facing each other.
The striker places their hands palms up, directly under the other player's hands.
The opponent (the evader) places their hands palms down, on top of the striker's hands.
Striking: The striker aims to slap the top of the opponent's hands. If they make contact, they stay in the role of the striker and their hands don’t get hurt.
Striking: The striker attempts to quickly flip their hands over and slap the top of the evader's hands. Successful contact earns a point.
Evasion: The evader must swiftly pull their hands away to dodge the slap.
Feinting: The striker can fake a strike to trick the opponent into flinching or moving their hands. If the evader flinches, the striker gets to hit the flincher as hard as they dare - knowing that delivering a blow often hurts as much as receiving one.
Switching Roles: If the striker misses, the players switch roles
Understanding Pain and Aggression:
The game provides a safe context to explore and understand personal limits with pain and aggression.
It encourages players to build resilience and understand their emotional and physical boundaries.
Developing Reflexes and Strategy:
The hand slap game requires sharp reflexes, quick thinking, and the ability to anticipate the opponent’s moves.
It's a practical exercise in reading body language and strategizing in real-time.
A fool learns from their pain
This game is not just about winning; it's about self-discovery and learning to manage life's tougher moments.
Success in the game parallels with embracing life's challenges and growing through them.
Learning to play with pain
In a bubble wrapped world of ‘trigger warnings’ finding ways to slap each other silly is truly liberating.
Sure, we don’t need to pound nails into the floor with our foreheads.
Having a fun relationship with pain will set you free.
We make sense of the world with how we play.
The hand slap game serves as a stepping stone towards understanding and accepting life's harsher realities.
It prepares players, particularly boys, to face the world with a more resilient and grounded outlook.
'Red Hands,' is more than a test of speed or a way to be a jerk to your younger brother. It's a lesson in facing life's difficulties head-on. It teaches us to confront pain and aggression, not with fear, but with a sense of courage and desire to move forward.
So what are you waiting for?
Go, slap someone till your hands turn red today!