This is a follow up to yesterday’s Foolsletter.
Not that long ago, children were viewed as an asset to the family. They were labour. They were security. They were there to care for their parents when they got old. When people were making the ‘choice’ to have more children, the math, in times of plenty was simple: more = better
Born to surf / born to serve
The children were not there for their own sake. They were there to serve the family. Born to serve. What were they for? To serve. Who were they for? Their family and their community.. They were there to help. How would they do it? Through compliance. There was an inherent familial compliance that was essential for the good of society.
This has been shifting
These days, what are children for? They don’t need to work in a field. They can’t increase a family’s wealth by working in a coal mine or shining shoes on a street corner. These days young parents are bombarded by warnings of just how damn expensive it is to raise a child to maturity. Children have become in many ways both a project, source of stress and ultimately, a liability.
What are children for?
The farms and cottage industries are now gone.
The pressure for children to be compliant to family systems and hierarchies still remain.
I asked my parents when I was younger, what were they thinking when they had me? How did they come to the decision to have a child? Their response? It was just what ya did. Simple enough. And then the joke: To have someone to look after me when I get old.
Ah. My utility: Caregiver for the aged
My parents are aging. My whole life purpose is coming. My destiny. Caring for aging parents. I’m so stoked to finally live my life’s purpose.
I’ll continue with this more tomorrow…
One Derful Thing
There are few things to me as pleasurable as gliding.
Gliding is grand. I characterize it as initial effort followed by residual results.
Find ways to glide today.
As you do, say: Ahhhhhhhhhh.
How to glide?
Take a skateboard. Push twice. Get your feet on it and roll for a while.
Get a shopping cart at the supermarket.
Run. Jump and see if you can balance your weight on the handle with your feet off the ground. Glide.
No shopping cart / arm strength?
Paddle twice in a canoe.
Pretend you have a canoe.
You’re late in your career?
Glide for a bit. There will be time for effort soon enough.