A bit more on thought
There is a difference between thinking positively and being delusional.
The line is fairly fine.
Positive thinking and having good thoughts about someone is a great way to support people.
Thinking well about other people may even help them heal, love and grow.
Delusional happens when others insist we need to believe it as well.
I write this because I’ve met people who are delusional. I have very ill, former clients who believe all sorts of nonsense. They insist that their belief, their version of reality is real and necessary despite the fact that what actually is happening stands in stark disagreement with them.
Having said that, I believe in laughter. I believe in levity.
And, I believe in the power of ridicule.
Many of my Gen X friends and I have been unnerved by the recent events in the Ukraine. I’ve written here about my nuclear war nightmares.
The fear comes from a perceived threat.
Is it real?
Here, bombs are not falling.
Here, there isn’t an immediate threat.
And yet my nervous system has been in overdrive. I’ve been edgy.
Laughing has helped the most.
Laughing with clients, friends and family has been liberating.
It’s helped reset my nervous system and eliminate the imagined threat from my moment to moment existence.
In The Prisoner of Azkaban we meet ‘boggarts’. Boggarts are a manifestation of our greatest fears.
In order to deal with boggarts, the students cast a spell that made the monsters look ridiculous. Laughter made them go away.
I think this is more than a mental trick.
Laughter happens with our nervous system. It happens in our guts. Deep laughing and crying have almost indistinguishable impacts on our bodies.
So, when you find yourself living in fear, yet being actually quite safe for the time being, make the thing you fear ridiculous.
Laughter will set you free.
It’s like the old saying goes:
Cats are happiest in a sunbeam